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Deepen your journey toward becoming a relaxed woman with three exclusive guided relaxations from Nicola — free when you pre-order the book. Claim your gift here.

Have you ever met a relaxed woman?

Would you like to become one?

 

Drawing on years of therapeutic experience and pioneering research, psychologist Nicola Jane Hobbs dispels the cultural myth that relaxing is lazy and shows us how it is, in truth, a path to healing, freedom and joy.

We have become a society of rushing women, overburdened women, exhausted women. Stress, guilt and burnout ripple through our lives. We try so hard to do it all – to be the perfect partners, mothers, daughters, colleagues, friends – only to end up feeling not good enough, unappreciated, lonely and exhausted.

In The Relaxed Woman, Nicola Jane Hobbs explores how the stress of societal pressures, unrealistic expectations and traumatic experiences impact our minds, bodies and relationships and illuminates a path towards healing. Weaving together neuroscience and psychology with inspirational stories from women who are discovering the transformational power of relaxation for themselves, Nicola guides us on a journey to becoming relaxed women – women who have untangled their sense of worth from their productivity, who can rest without guilt and anxiety, who trust their intuitions, honour their needs and live by their deepest values.

Filled with simple rest rituals we can weave into our busy lives, healing practices to help regulate our nervous systems and practical strategies to support us in navigating the unavoidable stressors of life, this book is for all of us who long to live more restful, joyful and authentic lives.

 

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Early praise for The Relaxed Woman

"This book is a balm for the woman who feels she has to earn her rest. It’s wise, soulful, and quietly transformative." —Anna Mathur, psychotherapist and bestselling author of The Uncomfortable Truth

‘"In a world where we are required to be constantly ‘on’, this book shows us how to confidently learn how to switch off and surrender to what we truly need." —Emma Reed Turrell, Psychotherapist and bestselling author of What Am I Missing?

"The Relaxed Woman is a profound act of resistance against a world that measures women by their productivity and sacrifice. With wisdom and compassion, Nicola Jane Hobbs revives the forgotten archetype of the relaxed woman—one who trusts her body, honors her needs, and reclaims rest as a source of power, freedom, and deep belonging.” —Brittany Piper, author of Body-First Healing: Get Unstuck and Recover from Trauma with Somatic Healing

"The Relaxed Woman is not just a book; it's a manifesto. It's a wake-up call. It's a rallying cry not to do more, be more, or have more, but to actually relax into yourself and your life. Nicola’s words are a balm. Every woman needs to read this book!" —Jamie Varon, bestselling author of Radically Content: Being Satisfied in an Endlessly Dissatisfied World

‘Nicola Jane Hobbs is the compassionate voice you want in your ear, helping you feel safe to rest, to relax into joy, to be authentically you. Like a healing sanctuary, a portal to connection, this book will expand the possibilities for your life. I love that this book does not proclaim to be an antidote to exhaustion, stress, anxiety or guilt; it’s a roadmap to help you navigate these normal, human experiences without fear.’ —Suzy Reading, psychologist and author of The Self-Care Revolution

"As a distinctly not-relaxed woman, this book was a great reminder of what we must consider on our journey to becoming calm and content. Hobbs calls into question philosophies and cultural expectations that keep women from being relaxed, and provides helpful questions for personal reflection along the way. If you are unfamiliar with factors keeping women from a calm life, this book is a great place to build your understanding." —Emily Ballesteros, bestselling author of The Cure for Burnout: How to Find Balance and Reclaim Your Life

“From the first page of Nicola Jane Hobbs’ The Relaxed Woman, I felt my shoulders soften, my breathing slow, and my mind expand. Revelatory, genuinely empowering, and deeply compassionate, this book is sure to help any woman who has felt stretched thin, burned out, or disconnected from feelings of awe and joy. I walked away convinced that relaxation can indeed be a feminist act—a hidden source of liberation that, until now, has been largely untapped. Let the relaxed woman revolution begin!” —Danielle Friedman, author of Let's Get Physical: How Women Discovered Exercise and Reshaped the World

‘A radical permission slip for every woman who has ever felt trapped by exhaustion, guilt, or pressure to do it all.’ —Abby Rawlinson, Psychotherapist and author of Reclaiming You

‘I have always adored Nicola's words. I’m absolutely delighted that her beautiful writing is now gathered in a book — something we can hold in our hands and return to whenever we need comfort, reassurance, or permission to become the more relaxed version of ourselves that we so often crave,’ —Helen Marie, psychotherapist and author of Choose You

"In a world that glorifies hustle and overwhelm, The Relaxed Woman is a refreshing invitation to embrace softness, self-compassion, and ease in your daily routine. It is a thought-provoking read for any woman navigating the tightrope of modern femininity, and struggling to balance ambition with well-being, who desires to move through life with confidence and calm, free from the pressures of constant striving." —Melissa Petro, author of Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of Mortification

“This book is an exhalation—a permission slip to slow down, soften, and relax into who you truly are. The Relaxed Woman is an invitation to release the grip of over-efforting, untangle from the myth of constant productivity, and return to a state of deep trust and ease. Through rich insights and gentle reminders, this book guides you back to yourself—the version of you that moves through life with joy, freedom, and an unshakable sense of peace.” —Amber Rae, bestselling author of Loveable: One Woman's Path from Good to Free

“Psychologist Nicola Jane Hobbs is really onto something. Her work counseling women has inspired me to switch the idea of ASAP to something else entirely—as slow as possible—tapping into a healthier, more rested way forward for myself (and as a result, my family). A magically healing guide laced with urgency and empowerment, The Relaxed Woman is a rallying cry for women of all walks of life to take back relaxation as a form of liberation. The feminist, self-care book every woman needs on their shelf.” —Gisele Barreto Fetterman, author of Radical Tenderness: The Value of Vulnerability in an Often Unkind World

"This is the book I've needed but didn't know I needed—from the very first line, I felt seen and understood on the deepest of levels. If you, like me, have spent most of your life doing, striving, achieving, rushing, and pushing forward despite deep exhaustion and overwhelm, this book is for you. Through her warm, understanding, inspiring words (and research!), Nicola gives tired women everywhere the permission we've been waiting for: you deserve to relax. I can't wait to gift this book to all of my friends and work through it together!” —Mary Catherine Starr, author of Mama Needs a Minute!Â