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As women, how can we participate in creating a world where we feel safe enough and worthy enough to rest?

Through my research, my hope is that, together, we can begin creating a world where women feel safe enough and worthy enough to rest. 

Thank you so much for your interest in taking part in the my research. I'm currently taking a break from interviews to focus on analysis but please do sign up to my newsletter if you'd like to be kept informed of how the research progresses.  

I have started publishing my findings online which you might like to read through to get a deeper sense of what the research is about. 

Research findings

I'm currently researching women‚Äôs relationship with rest and would love to speak with anyone (via email, Zoom or in-person) who¬†would¬†be happy have a chat¬†to explore¬†all things rest, relaxation, productivity, patriarchy, motherhood, multi-tasking, overworking, overwhelm, slowness, stillness, anxiety, awe ‚Äď and anything else that might unfold!

This is heart-centred research. It matters deeply to me. And, whilst I am doing the research, I am also participating in the research with you. We are co-creators. Co-learners. Co-healers.

Part of my focus is on depatriarchalising research ‚Äď researching in a way that honours our unique needs and worldviews as women.¬†Research from this paradigm is less about knowledge and more about¬†community ‚Äď bringing women together in order to raise our level of consciousness, have deeper insights into our world and explore how we can participate in our cultural evolution.

In this women-centric research paradigm, research is no longer about extracting knowledge and collecting data. Rather, research becomes a life-changing ceremony. Through our conversations, we are quietly participating in the creation of a world where women feel safe enough to slow down, safe enough to leave their to-do lists unfinished, safe enough to relax and enjoy their lives.

Whilst the research methodology I'm using (feminist and immersive) has no fixed goal and no step-by-step process to follow, some of the questions we might explore include:

  • What does being a 'relaxed woman' mean to you?¬†
  • What words/archetypes would you use to describe yourself and other women in your life? For example, the stressed woman, the busy woman, the exhausted woman, the superwoman.¬†
  • What causes stress in your life? How do you cope with it?
  • What does rest mean to you? How do you¬†feel about resting? How do you rest?
  • Growing up, how did you see the women (mothers, grandmothers) in your life rest and relax?¬†
  • As women, what drives¬†our collective anxiety and guilt around relaxing?
  • What are the psychological and socioeconomic barriers to getting enough rest?¬†This could range from gender inequality at work and at home to feeling like you should always be doing something productive.
  • How do cultural messages and expectations influence our resistance to rest?
  • What price are we paying, personally and collectively, by not resting?
  • How would approaching the challenges in our lives ‚Äď train delays, tantrums, arguments, failures, social injustice ‚Äď from a more relaxed perspective, help us cope with them more effectively?
  • How can we begin to rest and relax so we have the capacity to take care of ourselves, the people we love and the world around us?¬†
  • As women, how can we participate in creating a world we feel safe enough to rest?

Anything you share with me is confidential and, if the research is published, your identity will be disguised and any recognisable details will be removed whilst remaining true to the spirit of your story in order to serve the greater goal: To help women feel safe enough to rest.

As part of the immersive research process, I'll also be reviewing academic literature and drawing on material from autobiographies and poems, as well as exploring perspectives on social media and paying attention to the relationships, communities and places I already inhabit. 

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How to take part

Thank you so much for your interest in taking part in the my research. I'm currently taking a break from interviews to focus on analysis but please do sign up to my newsletter if you'd like to be kept informed of how the research progresses.  

Meet your researcher

Nicola is an integrative therapist, social science researcher, author, consultant and founder of The Relaxed Woman. She has been teaching yoga and meditation for over a decade and is currently getting her chartership as a sport and exercise psychologist. In her free time you can find her growing vegetables, wandering by the ocean or in a cute coffee shop with a good book and a buttery croissant. You can connect with her on social media @nicolajanehobbs.

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